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Why I Made this Documentary

My name is Richard Grannon, and I made this documentary for all the victims of narcissistic abuse who felt as unheard and misunderstood as I did.

For everyone who had their family and friends look at them like they were crazy when they tried to describe the issues within the relationship or who even had people turn their back on them for saying that something was wrong.

And especially for everyone who endured going to a therapist or counsellor only to be told by a “professional” that narcissistic abuse wasn’t real and the problems were all inside their own head.

Narcissistic abuse is real and highly destructive, and it’s time to let the world know that we won’t allow this issue to be swept under the carpet anymore.

The Experts

Richard Grannon

Richard Grannon (aka the Spartan Life Coach) is the producer of this short documentary—a psychology buff with a passion for helping people to protect themselves from emotional vampires. Over the last few years, he has developed a system that heals the victims of narcissistic abuse and empowers them to defend themselves from predatory types in the future.

Sam Vaknin

Sam Vaknin is the author of Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited and other books and ebooks about topics in psychology (personality disorders), relationships, philosophy, economics, and international affairs.

The Hallmarks of Narcissistic Abuse

Has your relationship left you in a confused and anxious mess?

Are you experiencing intense levels of adrenaline, anxiety and even rage that swings down into bleak depression without any reason whatsoever?

Do you find yourself acting strangely, becoming uncharacteristically defensive or confrontational?

You are not alone

See how much your story of narcissistic abuse matches up with the “typical experience” of the victims of narcissistic abuse.

When we have been in an emotionally abusive relationship with someone who is personality disordered sometimes it’s not obvious to us that any kind of psychological manipulation has even taken place. Until its too late.

Then one day we wake up and find our lives in ruins, our self-confidence in tatters, our personal affairs in chaos and even our sanity hanging on by a thread wondering what happened and how we got there.

The truth is sometimes almost too bitterly painful to bear. The idea that we might have been the victim of some kind of “love fraud” at the hands of someone, who due to a mental health issue might have done this to us as part of a regular pattern of behaviour, can be just too much.

We flee from the pain of this truth. We self-medicate, engage in pain numbing activities and frequently feel a strong urge to self-isolate.

The devastating effect of such an experience can and does destroy people's whole lives, leaving them mentally raped and suffering from a kind of "psychological AIDS" that causes the emotional self-defense system to attack itself preventing healing and recovery.

It can be a horrifying and agonising experience. I know because I have lived it. More than once.

The story does not have to end there.

Help is at hand. There are solutions. There is a pathway that can be followed out of this dark and torturous place to one of light and hope and healing. You can get your life back, you can recover, you become stronger than you ever imagined.

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About Richard

Richard Grannon, the Spartan Life Coach

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Who I am, and why you can trust me.

My name is Richard Grannon. When I was younger, I wanted to be a psychologist. So I got a bachelor's degree in psychology and qualified as Master Practitioner of NLP by the time I was 22. I started working at the probation service, before moving onto to doing one on one counselling and then finding my niche teaching applied psychology in motivational seminars to teens in schools all over the UK. I then went on to teaching self-protection psychology and NLP in the self-defence community and built a globally recognised brand in that area.

I had traveled a lot teaching and living in various countries, meeting a lot of different people from different cultures.

You could say I knew more than the average person about psychology. But nothing I had learned could prepare me for what happened next.

At age 30, I got into a relationship that turned my life upside down. I went from being a confident, gregarious motivational speaker and psychology coach to an emotionally dysregulated, anxious, depressed “shut in” in the space of 18 months.

The relationship bore all the classic red flags of an abusive relationship.

Red Flags of an Abusive Relationship

Whirlwind Romance

Also called the “love bombing” phase.The person presents themselves as the perfect manifestation of everything you could ever want in a partner. By scanning and mirroring your core values, they can effectively slip past your ego defences and wheedle their way straight into the most intimate vulnerable core space with unprecedented rapidity.

Too Much, Too Soon

My relationship, like most of the relationship stories I hear from clients, escalated far too fast. We were effectively living together within less than a week. The rapid erosion of the target's boundaries and the de facto “boundary blurring” of the couple as two separate individuals is frequently far too fast and too extreme in emotionally abusive relationships. This is simply because it suits the agenda of the predator.

Pronounced Feelings of Doubt and Anxiety

The “button pushing” phase. At some point the predatory narcissist has to start deliberately pushing your buttons to learn what really hurts you, to control you, to scan your inner emotional vulnerabilities more effectively to dominate you and to begin what is called the “trauma bonding” process of mixed pain and pleasure so that the victim becomes addicted to the narcissists presence.

Isolation from Support Network

The “divide and conquer” strategy. The narcissist needs the victim vulnerable and alone, so they can brainwash them more effectively. It does NOT suit the narcissist's agenda to have the victim getting differing points of view, feedback or reality checks from others outside of the “two-person cult” the narcissist is trying to run.

Erosion of Values

The “up is down, in is out” strategy. Through subtle threats, manipulation, “poisoning the well,” gaslighting, passive abuse or outright shaming, mockery, and guilt tripping the narcissist can train the victim to start to doubt the validity of their core values and indeed their self-image and self-worth. The victim over time begins to despair, and their ego defences start to fragment causing them to lose a sense of who they are and to act “totally out of character.” If you have people who have known you for a while expressing concern or telling you that you aren’t acting like yourself, this is a major red flag.

My Journey Out of Darkness

I spent years and years wandering around in a self-isolated fugue state swinging between total self-abandonment, self-loathing and despair followed by heavy bouts of rage and depression.

Eventually, I made a decision to get out of the mental and emotional place I was in or to “die trying”. I began studying and working fervently to find solutions to the problem.

Imagine my horror as I realised that after over a decade of working within psychology, there were HUGE gaping holes in my understanding of the human mind that I was never taught and only a few people in the “fringe” dared to talk about. My entire world view was shattered and then shattered again as I realised the unintentional secondary abuse carried out by psychotherapists and counsellors who failed to recognise (or, some refused to recognise):

  1. That emotional abuse deliberately carried out by personality disordered narcissists and psychopaths against vulnerable unknowing targets using “love” as the bait to suit a particular agenda is very real.
  2. That the effect on the victim is specific, follows an objectively verifiable pattern and if left untreated has a devastating effect on the target and the people around them.
  3. That there is a simple cure for this effect, that takes skill, time and effort to apply but works with reliable results.
  4. That due to skyrocketing rates of incidences of NPD behaviour being reported, clients seeking mental health assistance are at significant real threat and MUST be warned of the danger of being in an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist.
  5. Narcissists are real, narcissistic abuse is real. Narcissistic abuse victim syndrome and the CPTSD symptoms it brings on the target are invisible but very real, and we must all be doing more to protect people vulnerable to this kind of toxic love fraud.

Over time and with a lot of self-discipline of working on myself and with my clients I have found a strategy for recovering from narcissistic abuse syndrome. It has helped me, and to date, according to the emails I get sent weekly, thousands of others all over the world to overcome the pain and devastation this kind of silent abuse inflicts.

Because of how the abuse takes places and the specific issues, it inflames in people it is very, very challenging to overcome this kind of abuse. It takes self-compassion and patience by the boatload. “Quick fixes” don’t do much it seems. I tried, and I get anecdotal evidence in the form of feedback from people who have tried multiple therapeutic methods. It takes time and it takes learning. We may even need you to change your whole “Philosophy of Life” and worldview in order to make a full and lasting recovery.

But that is no reason to give up

Sign up today and start getting the kind of support and advice you need to recover. From people, just like you, who had no hope, who are now healing and growing and who are only interested in one thing: recovery of their sovereignty and the capacity to move on with their lives.

*I won't share your information with anyone.